I was backstage at a Fashion Show in Milan when I first heard another model talk about The Law of Attraction. Even though I have always been curious about that concept it took me until last night until I actually watched a movie called ‘The Secret’ on a 13 hr flight from Los Angeles to Berlin. This is going to be about my understanding of ‘The Secret’ and what I take away from this concept.
What is the Law of Attraction?
According to the movie the Law of Attraction is a universal rule saying that everything we have in Life- good and bad- has been attracted by us. Therefore if we think about the bad things that happened to us we will attract even more of these things. On the other hand the movie suggests that by Visualizing and Believing the things we want to have will automatically attract them into our lives.
An example: If we want to have financial succes and drive an overprized German car with a blonde girl sitting next to us we don’t focus on the fact that we are currently in debt or haven’t received any matches on Tinder. Instead we say: “I do have money!” And we visualize the car and imagine how it feels to sit in that car with the woman of our dreams.
By Visualizing what we want and feeling like we are already there, the Universe is going to provide it for us.
Why I am sceptical about the Law of Attraction
At first that sounds very plausible and I truly do believe in the Power of a positive mindset and optimism. What the Secret does not explain is: How exactly does a thought attract something tangible? In the movie it is shown as a Magical Impulse that goes out to the Universe which then acts as a Genie who makes that wish come true. But why and how does the Universe do that?
The Law of Attraction is introduced as a ‘Law of Nature’ but accepting something as a given fact without understanding the mechanisms and motivations sounds more like a Religion which is beautiful and provides hope- but solely based on Belief.
What I take away from the Law of Attraction
Even though I can not accept the Universal Mechanism that the Universe is going to provide what we think about but there are two main concepts that really inspired me in this Movie!
Thinking and Visualizing our Dreams is still very effective! It gives us a purpose when we walk around being aware of what we want. All that can happen on a subconscious level!
Example: We still want our car and are eating oysters at a restaurant. In that moment we are aware of our goal of making money and a business idea to sell the oyster shells as an exclusive piece of Art comes into our mind. This thought would not have been triggered without Visualizing and knowing exactly what we want.
In my favorite section of the movie the narrator introduces a Grattitude Stone that he puts in his pocket as a reminder to be grateful. Whenever he touches it he thinks about all the things he is grateful for. Being grateful switches the focus from what we want to what we have! This was a great reminder for me. There are so many things we take for granted and acknowledging the fact that we have a lot creates a positive energy and attitude which then will attract more positive things.
This is not a Law of the Universe but a basic principle of Psychology. Being positive will be noticed by others and makes us more open to new opportunities and risks.